Category: Dating and Relationships
As most of us blind ppl on here, how important to for you to stay in verble communication during sex? Is it also a turn-on/off for you to talk or to be talked dirty to you? Does it differ from men and women?
Honestly, I love it when a girl makes noise during. it doesn't have to be loud
at all, just something. As for dirty talk? Not so much. I have been with a
couple girls who liked dirty talk, but it never did much for me and honestly
made me feel a little awkward. I think it's why I never got into phone sex,
though once again, a couple people I've been with really enjoyed that. I
enjoyed them enjoying it, but I didn't find it necessary.
I've had very good physical and phone sex, both with and without the dirty talk. I would say I could take it or leave it, but it's nice to know that if I do say something dirty, my partner isn't gonna suddenly clam up and freak out, so I guess I do like having the option.
well for me dirty talk is a must, it gets me so hot on the phone. Then extra duper hot in physical terms.
Moaning? yes, if it's natural of course! What could be better than the expression of someone losing control and really abandoning themselves to the act? Dirty talk...depends. It can be arousing as hell but also a turn-off. For sure if you are going to talk dirty to someone, you should know what sort of thing they like first.
I had a somewhat drunken one-night stand with someone once and she kept screaming "FUCK THE SHIT OUT OF ME! FUCK THE SHIT OUT OF ME!" and it sounded so funny I had to struggle to keep from laughing. So there's that too. lol
Oh God, I heard this porn file where this woman sounded really drunk. The guy was fucking her and she kept screaming, "Make me feel good! Can you make me feel good? Make meh feel goooooood! Make meh fee'ee'eel goo'oo'ood!" I laughed my ass off.
hahaha, yeah, sometimes it's better just not to talk after you've led up to it. It's hard to keep a dialogue going anyway. Although I'll always remember that scene from Romper Stomper where they're getting each other off while reading passages from Meine Kampf!. That was pretty dirty. ahahaha
I like sound, because it lets me know I'm doing well.
But talking dirty just because could make me laugh too.
Some dirty talk is nice, if natural, or to get in the mood, but screaming just to do it?
Laughing.
I agree, you have to know what the other wants to hear to get you off and what not. I've heard some people even like to hear themselves talk dirty, it makes them even wild just to do it.
I don't like to hear myself, because then I start thinking too much about the things I'm saying, and you're not supposed to be thinking, damit!
But if I can benefit from someone else's sexy narcissism, so much the better!
She doesn't have to be loud of course but I do like a girl who's vocal.
The thing that gets me every time is when a guy is in the middle of saying something when his orgasm hits. Maybe he's trying to warn me that he's about to cum in my mouth, but suddenly just can't hold back anymore and just loses it. Yummy. Not sure why, but that is soooo hot!
I find it incredibly hot when a girl does that.
Agreed that that's hot as hell. It's the whole loss of control thing.
One thing we need to understand is moaning is a natural reaction if something feels good. It shouldn't be forced but be organic. Hmmm, organic orgasms. What a great band name! Lol.
heavy Breathy and the Organic Orgasms. Coming to a garage near you.
Lol but the problem is that people feel they need to make certain vocalizations just because it's some ritual. I say it should be what comes naturally to you.
About the only real request I'd make is that the person try to say something right about the time that orgasm hits. I really wanna hear when the good feeling takes over.
That makes sense. You need to know that you are getting the job done.
Exactly. It reminds me of a conversation I had with my very first girlfriend a few years back. We never had sex but she'd gotten into a "relationship" with a guy who really liked phone sex, so she was asking about the noises she should make since she wasn't sure she was doing it right. Uhm, whatever comes naturally to you?
Exactly. And I'm sorry but I can tell when something is forced
Same here.
If she was asking about what noises she should make, it sounds like she was only doing it to please him. It wasn't doing anything for her sexually, but then again, maybe it all comes down to lack of experience. Maybe she's just not very sexually experienced to begin with. But as far as what noises she should make to please him, only he could really answer that.
She'd not know what noises she would make if she'd never had sex.
Sure, you could listen to others, but until you have your own it won't be natural.
I should add sex that made her orgasm to the point she'd make a noise anyway.
You can have sex, but not come, so.
I think she was nervous because some people have expectations. I think many people who haven't had sex don't realize it's all about what comes naturally. They don't have much to go on accept for books and movies.
So true.
Yup. She's never had sex before or really any kind of sexual experiences. As a result she has this unreasoning fear of sex. Actually though, I think she's not so much afraid of sex as she is of the thought that she might have it and actually gasp, enjoy it and want more! She's got a lot of religious hangups about a lot of things and sex is one of them, although she keeps claiming that if I took her back or if we ever visited face to face again she'd be willing to experience it with me because I'm blind and went to the Blind School with her. But she's been claiming ever since these phone sex incidents, now about six years behind her, that she was basically raped over the phone. But I definitely think she was only doing it to please him and I have no doubt that it would be the same for me if I were ever so foolish as to take her back.
Interesting. Now I do personally love it when a woman calls out during sex but I actually don't request it. If she does she does.
Exactly. I just like to be able to know she's enjoying it.
Yes. And when you think of it that isn't so unusual. If you're doing something to her that she can't stand you're just a jerk.
I especially love hearing a girl call out my name at the critical moment LOL.
That's good unless it's done in a way that seems cleshay.
This is certainly true.
I don't care if the guy calls out my name or not, but hearing him as he strains, pants, moans, gasps or any combination there of just drives me insane. I love it when they try to say they're cumming, but right in the middle of cum, they go straight in to orgasm and can't finish the sentence. I've heard a couple of guys who didn't have that straining sound, but most of the ones I've heard who are vocal at all, kinda do have it.
It's difficult to not be vocal during sex. If some of you don't believe me, give it a shot. Nobody is fully quiet.
I have a hard time being quiet. if I need to be silent, I have my guy muffle me in different ways. dirty talk isn't a must, but it's a huge turn on with the right guy.
Sure you can be muffled but you're not fully silent.
twas my point.
The last few comments remind me of the Lobster. Heartless Woman is my favorite character. Hilarious movie.
Did she moan and/or talk dirty? Hahaha
Neither. The scene where she is engaged in sexual intercourse with the protagonist is hilarious because he's pretending to be as cold and unfeeling as Heartless Woman, so she keeps a close watch on him to make sure his attitude toward sex matches hers. She literally changes positions in the middle of the act simply so she can monitor his facial expressions.
The Lobster is black comedy...it satirizes romance and relationships. Having common interests and characteristics with one's partner is taken to extremes and the results are comical
interesting
I use to play a game.
We'd see how quiet we could be.
You had to not make any noises at all.
Smile.
LOL, interesting Wayne. Anyone ever won that game?
Sounds interesting. Don't even breathe!
that could probably lead to some dangerous consiquences lol
Have to breathe. Lol
That was allowed.
It just couldn't be a moan, like that. No kicking the bed or using your hands to lessen the tenchen.
The first person to make noise loses. The prize can be anything decided on.
It can get pretty intense because you both go at each other trying to win. Lol
Sounds like a fun game.
It's great when someone has to struggle to be quiet, but it's obviously extremely difficult. that's a turn-on, I find. Especially when noises of pleasure emerge despite all the herculean effort.
In theory it seems hot to me but I'm not sure if t's a game I'd play. It could be fun on one hand but I think you'd be so focused on the game you wouldn't be focused on your partner.
You're focused , because you're trying to make them holler. Smile.
Sex isn't all serious all the time.
To much focused , gets boring to me.
Lets play some too.
Laughing.
Oh you took it the wrong way. I don't always jump into bed and get serious. Hahahaha. Anyway, does sound fun.
Stop lying. I've been watching you.
hahaha.
No peaking! lol.
I prefer a women to be quietly moaning and breathing heavily. I can
never take a girl serious when she is moaning like maniac. It always
makes me laugh, as is the girl is trying to emulate a porn or something.
I understand that but I can tell if it's fake porn yelling or not. For instance, I can feel my wife's cunt spasm. You can't fake involuntary muscle movements and leg locking.
The leg locking and that uncontrollable thrust a girl does when she can't
control her pelvic muscle anymore is amazing.
Yup and when she jumps a little is fun.
I've had guys go in to a similar sort of spasm. Mmm. That moment when he thrusts his cock as far in as possible, and then just sort of locks there, his whole body tensed up is absolutely wonderful.
Wahoo we all agree!